By the time I was 25, I had a job that I loved, two degrees, and a wonderfully amazing son and my life, with all it’s untapped potential, still wasn’t WONDERful. Through a series of events and people that I will tell you about on this blog I set out to GET HEALTHY so I could FINALLY get on to living life the wonderful way!
HOW IT ALL STARTED…
My mom passed away while giving birth to me. She was exceptionally beautiful and kind and loved people with her whole heart. I was raised in the suburbs of St. Louis by my father, my step mother, my great grandmother, my sister Lisa, and a host of other women who cared for me in my mother’s absence. There were a lot of us in the house! I have a sister, a brother, a step brother, a step sister, and a nephew that grew up with me. I am very close with my siblings—we’ve got the whole ‘WE ALL WE GOT’-thing going on.
My dad was the pastor of a Baptist church. I was extremely close to my daddy. I was probably the weirdest and most awkward kid EVER. Daddy helped me be ok with myself just the way I am. He was very ill throughout the majority of my childhood and by the time I was 16, he also passed away.
After that I moved in with my sister, Lisa, and her husband, Mike, who watched out for me and provided for me until I went off to college.
HOW IT ALMOST ENDED…
When I left home I was on my own. After my first two years of college, I got pregnant and gave birth to my son Jai. At the time I was in a very unhealthy relationship with Jai’s dad. After 5 years of fighting and constantly arguing we finally decided to part ways.
With all of the pressure of being poor, having a child, and trying to go to school, I flunked out of college and was evicted from my apartment.
HOW IT CAME BACK TOGETHER…
By the grace of God I was given another chance. They admitted me back into school on academic probation and I was able to secure another town home on government assistance. I learned a great deal from those experiences and I went on to complete a Bachlor’s and a Master’s degree.
(Jai crossed the stage with me BOTH times! I wouldn’t have it any other way!)
The day Jai was born was what I consider to be the first day of the rest of my life. Having him changed everything and blessed me in ways I still don’t understand.
Jai grew up on my campus and made a name for himself in his own right. He’s such a little Wonder Kid! To this day He still loves being on college campuses and taking advantage of the activities and opportunities that they offer like Basketball and Football games, free food, computers, movies—he loves it all!…He’s also a real ham and loves the attention college students freely give him!
Through my difficulties as a parenting student I discovered a passion for helping young and single mothers reach for their dreams. And out of that passion I began advocacy work around these issues.
WHERE IT IS NOW….
I currently live in Kansas City. And I love it here. Over the last 1-2 years I have been focusing on getting healthy!
I work at UMKC and I love my job..and my students! Annnnnd….I work as a cashier at a local grocery store on the weekends. Basically I work 7 days a week and honestly it’s not THAT bad except…
I LOVE my church but I don’t get to go as often as I would like to…and I’m not going to lie, that part bothers me a WHOLE lot.
I don’t watch television—at all! At first it started because I couldn’t afford cable and I still have one of those TV’s with a butt on the back so I couldn’t get any channels. Then I just got used to it and that was about 3 years ago!
I’m the most introverted, extrovert you will ever meet. I love spending time by myself. Absolutley LOVE it! It’s nothing for me to be alone for entire days and thoroughly enjoying myself. Like, I look forward to it and get excited about it!
I love to eat! I probably should’ve listed this first since it’s one my most dominant character traits. It’s been that way since I was little girl! This is a real conversation that happened between my dad and a member of our church:
*Man sees my new outfit and says to my dad, “You must spend a lot of money on her clothes”
Dad frowns a little and replies, “I’d rather cloth her than feed her!” I was like 8! 🙂
I ABSOLUTELY love food! Every creed, color, and kind—I love it all! I will try ALMOST anything once and I can’t narrow down my favorite kind because it all makes me smile!
I love writing and blogging! DUH! It helps me process the events of my life and it blesses me that all the drama and pain I’ve experienced is helping someone else live a WONDERful life! That’s so cool to me! I really thank God for this whole experience!
I want a dog really bad! Jai really wants a dog too! The only thing is that I don’t, at all, have time for one! Not one extra minute. When (if) my life slows down the first thing I am going to do is get a dog. We always had dogs when I was growing up. They still have a special place in my heart.
I am so very excited that you are here! I am SO excited to live a WONDERful life with you!
Stay Wonderful! 🙂